May 20, 2019

AH! I’m pregnant and my real thoughts and fears on going from 1-2.

Dress: Alice + Olivia (sized up to a 6 to accommodate bump) | Shoes: Aquazzura

Well, the cats finally out of the bag! It feels good to not have to hide anymore and even more so, to finally feel better! The first trimester was rough. Like really, really rough.

At one point, some of you may recall the radio silence over here and me mentioning there was some backend site issues happening. Well, that was 100% the truth. However, I was so sick that I didn’t even have the energy to deal with it or even have my assistant navigate the situation. Writing an email or communicating with people about anything, seemed like so much work. Getting out of bed, let alone having to take care of a toddler, was so much work. At one point, I was so sick, I remember thinking “how am I possibly going to take care of two children? What did I get myself into?” Actually, I’m lying, I thought that on several occasions where everything required so much mental and physical energy. I feared that my entire pregnancy, let alone, my entire immediate future was going to feel like that.

Weight Gain & First Trimester: So far, I’ve gained 10lbs, definitely more than I wanted to. For the last two months, every single day felt like a terrible hangover and the only cure was carbs on carbs on carbs. I had a bialy or a bagel (I would force myself to stop at half a bagel) on most days because that’s all my body craved. That and croissants, pasta, chips and greasy thai food. All of the normal things I normally enjoy: eggs, greens, any type of vegetable or salad, literally made me gag. I remember feeling this way with Nate during the first trimester, but for some reason, this time felt slightly worse. It’s possible it’s because I’m older or because I’ve blocked Nate’s first trimester out. I’m not entirely sure.

My Honest Fears & Thoughts: Many of you may recall me writing this post in which I shared that Keith and I were unsure whether we wanted a second child. For a long time, there was never a definitive yes or no, but as time went on, I felt myself leaning way more towards yes than no. My friends would ask me: “do you think you want another?” and my response would be “I think so.” I’ve mentioned on several occasions that Keith and I were both only children and while we both had wonderful childhoods, a big part of me wanted to give Nate what I didn’t experience. I also dreamt of bigger holidays even though I was still scared shitless of rocking our boat. Honestly, I was scared (and still am) of many things.

I really debated on sharing was how I felt when I initially found out. I want to say that we were elated off the bat, but the truth of the matter was, we were very nervous. I didn’t want to share the truth because I’m also extremely aware at what a gift this is. I know many people (both online and off) who’ve had and still have, such struggles getting pregnant. I didn’t want to come off as ungrateful or insensitive. However, I’ve realized that I’m allowed to be honest and feel the way I do. I’m sure I’m not alone and that my initial reaction, a combination of excitement, fear and nerves, was not entirely abnormal.

The thoughts running through our mind:

“How are we going to juggle our already busy lives with two?”

“Are we ever going to sleep again?”

“Is our marriage going to suffer? Are we going to have any time for each other?!”

“Will we have any downtime?” (don’t answer that)

“Will this second child be as easy as Nate?” I’m convinced that he or she won’t be.

“Will we love this baby as much as Nate?”

“How are we going to get not 1, but 2 kids into a carseat” (why is this the most exhausting thing in the world?)

And with Keith always working so late, I would think “How the hell am I going to get two kids to sleep?”

There were (and are) so many thoughts and nerves….

I felt very guilty for feeling all of these things and almost didn’t share, but I also didn’t think that would be fair. As exciting as pregnancy is, there’s also a lot of emotions and fear associated with going from 0-1, 1-2 children or more… I thought to myself “I can’t possibly be alone in these thoughts.” So here I am, being as honest as possible because it’s not always happy thoughts and pure excitement.

2nd Trimester: This week marks 15 weeks (due early November) and I can officially say that I’m feeling 100% better. My energy is back! I’m finally waking up in a great mood and craving all of the usual things I genuinely enjoy: eggs in the morning, veggies, greens with the occasional treat, rather than having carbs and junk take over every meal. I barely worked out for the first three months, but now have the energy to start getting some movement back in. I’ve missed the endorphins and how I feel after moving my body. I’m also not beating myself up over how I was the first trimester. This is what I tell other women who are experiencing it for the first time, but it’s truly about survival mode. When you feel as sick as a lot of us do, you do what you have to do to get through it. If that means going through a McDonalds drive-thru for breakfast, go for it.

Currently: I’ve went from feeling very anxious, scared and emotional to getting excited and thinking “okay, we can do this!” I know things won’t be easy and things will be a lot crazier, but in the grand scheme of life, it all passes by so quickly. I’m excited to see Nate as a big brother, something I always dreamed about for myself. Keith is nervous, probably more nervous than I am. I think he would have been fine with one, but there were also several occasions that he’d hint on “maybe being ready for a second.” He’s still anxious and freaking, but now that my mood and anxiety have shifted, I see him easing up. It’s crazy how a significant others energy can truly rub off on the other person.

Of course, this doesn’t take away from the slight fear and nerves associated from going from 1-2, but now that I’m in a better emotional and physical state, everything seems like it will all (god willing) work itself out.

We are going to find out the sex so of course, will keep you all posted once we do!

Thank you for following along on yet another chapter in my life!

xo,

Helena


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  • Babs

    Congratulations!! Morning sickness with my first was off the charts – like you said 24/7 New Years Day hangover. I gained 20 pounds the 1st 20 weeks and then didn’t gain a single pound the last 20 weeks because I could finally eat healthy again and exercise. Good luck!

    • VAlentine

      OMG Congratulations Helena!!🥰🥰
      Damn!! I’m so happy for you. I’m ready for this #2 journey. I usually feel like i’m part of this family.
      I so excited for you. I love you 💕

    • Emilia

      Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!! What wonderful news ❤️🥰🙌 And you look stunning per usual 🥰❤️

  • Glori

    So happy for your growing family! Can’t wait to see Nate as a big brother! He’s going to be such a good helper!!!

    • Fran

      I’m due on Friday and still have all those feels…everything you said and more!! I’m excited but nervous and many a time have thought how can I love someone as much as I love my first (everyone tells me it will be fine …lol), is my son ready to be a big brother, will he miss being an only child etc etc etc …thanks for keeping it real …congrats and looking forward to following your journey second time round xx

  • Kelly

    Congrats! We’re due right around the same time 🙂 I was 15 weeks on Friday. I look forward to your maternity fashion tips that I can copy, Ha.

    • Helena

      Thank you and a huge congrats to you!!

  • Gayana Bagdasaryan

    CONGRATS!!! 🙂

  • Michelle S.

    Congratulations!
    Thank you for sharing your honest feelings. We have one and have been thinking of “maybe”
    #2 – however I am so scared. The first time around was so much & I’m finally sleeping. Thank you, for sharing and letting me know it’s okay & can be an uneasy feeling.

    • Erin

      Congrats! I’m a fellow New Yorker almost 16 weeks pregnant with my first 🙂 looking forward to some fashion insights.. I’m sure I’ll be moving into maternity clothes soon.. I’m just wearing my baggy, loose clothes for now but am unsure how my style might translate as my belly grows, so I’m relieved and excited that one of the bloggers I follow is pregnant too!

  • cm

    you’re not alone in your feelings. i always leaned more towards having a second and told people – no one needs multiple small children to take care of, but i know when our first is ten years old and doesn’t have a sibling i’ll regret it. so i got pregnant, and regretted it until i was about six months pregnant. then i just came to terms with the fact that our lives would be ruined, we’d never sleep, we’d never have time for each other, etc. then i had our second and was so ecstatic to have a baby, a sweet perfect baby. our daughter loves (mostly) having a baby around. we did babywise and baby started sleeping through the night at 2 months. we held firm with our daughter trying to act out and sleep rebel (as toddlers do) and made sure she kept sleeping through the night, too. if everyone sleeps you will be a happy family (that’s my mantra). we accept help better now. we were less anxious this time around. we are genuinely, to our core, filled with happiness and joy in having two children. its so much better being on the other side (i.e. having that second baby in your arms and not being pregnant). I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly and don’t worry – you’re not alone in your feelings but i think you’re going to love it.

    • Helena

      I loved reading this – thank you so much for sharing! Relaxes my anxiety over everything.

  • Katie Elliott

    Congratulations! My second time around being pregnant was much harder also, BUT I can safely say, now that we have an almost four-year-old son and a ten-month-old baby girl, it is MUCH easier going from one to two than zero to one. I know that seems counterintuitive, but I think one child was a much bigger shock to our system and lifestyle. And, the best part is watching them together; the love they have for each other is incredible and as an only child myself, I’m happy to have given them that! Good luck, you got this!

    • Paige

      Congratulations! Thank you for sharing your real feelings. I am 7 months pregnant and my baby turns 1 this week. To say I have felt all of those things is an understatement and although I am so scared I am also so excited! Excited to watch your family grow!

  • S B

    Thank you so much for sharing. I also have a little boy and we had decided on him being an only child. You’re one of the people I have looked up to that had a similar family situation. We have been really considering a second because our son looooves kids. It almost feels like it would be wrong to not give him a sibling.
    I have all of the thoughts/fears you do, so I can’t wait to see that it all turns out fine <3

  • Diana

    Helena, I’m so incredibly happy for you and Keith! I honestly thought you guys just wanted one but secretly wanted you guys to have another. Nate is literallyyyy perfect, hes so smart and oh so cute! and I’m sure your next one is going to be just as perfect! I’m turning 30 this year and with this comes me actually thinking about when I’m going to have my own child and if I even want that. Every time you post Nate, I get baby fever and hope I can raise a child as good as he is. I know things aren’t always perfect but thats the best part. I honestly wish you the best throughout this entire pregnancy, I hope you are happy, and healthy and I cant wait to see Nate as a big brother <3

  • Joann

    I am SO excited for you, your hubby and little Nate! You also look adorable in that CUTE, CUTE dress! Now I know why you weren’t posting on a regular basis — good reason for sure! Congrats to all!

    • Lauren

      Yes, Congratulations!! Dear Joann (above, my mother) kept telling me you hadn’t been posting – and we are both so excited to see why! Looking forward to your new journey and maternity fashion, of course. My guess is girl!

  • Sandy

    Congratulations! Thank you for sharing and being open and honest with how you are feeling. I had the same feelings and emotions. We did fertility treatments to have our first child and weren’t sure we wanted a second. Low and behold, I got pregnant naturally and you would think I would have been elated but I cried at my first doctors appointment. Not tears of joy but of panic and fear. Fear of the future, how our lives would change, how much more money childcare would be, whether I’d get PPD again, etc. Our little girl is 4.5 months and I will say that going from 0-1 kids is much harder than going from 1-2. It all does work out you will find a new normal. And one day you’ll be looking at Nate interact with his new baby brother or sister and your heart will fill with joy!

  • Caidi

    Always love your honesty and candor. You look great, seem to have a great perspective on it all, and can’t wait to follow your journey! Thanks for sharing!

  • Docdivatraveller

    I am so happy for your little family! I am a single child myself and I had my second baby earlier this year. I had these emotions going through me but believe me, I wouldn’t have anything otherwise!
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  • Alyssa

    Congratulations!!! And thank you for being so real as always! I’m 17 weeks with our first (a girl! 😊) and have been having so many of the feelings and nerves you mention. Have also been down about weight gain, definitely put on more than I thought I would this fast, up 14lbs already, so THANK YOU again for being honest and reminding me I’m not alone and this is all normal feelings to have. Congrats again and excited to follow and be inspired by your pregnancy style!!

  • Jenn

    OMG congrats! I’ve loved your honest posts about navigating whether or not you felt like your family was “complete” with Nate but this is also such amazing news! The transparency on this post about your anxiety transitioning from 1 to 2 is also so relatable, so thank you again for sharing. Sending you and the whole family all the best vibes!!

  • AlYson

    Girl. I am pregnant with #2 due end of September and YES to everything you said!!! Yes to more difficult first trimester, yes to extreme nervousness about changing our family dynamic, yes to gaining 10lbs in first trimester due to eating a diet of 90% fat/carbs lol. I’m 21 weeks now and feel like I am just now starting to get a mental grip on having a second baby. Thanks for sharing – although I ha e some amazing mom friends, none of them shared or empathized with these feelings, and while I don’t feel ashamed I was nervous (and second guessing our decision), it’s nice to hear someone else acknowledge how scary it can be, even in the midst of excitement/joy. Congratulations to you guys!!

    • Helena

      Thank you so much and congrats to you! So glad my thoughts and fears could resonate with you and that it’s such a “normal” way to feel! xo

  • Lizzie

    Congratulations!!! I am 19 weeks pregnant with my first and have been diving back into posts from your first pregnancy – very excited to see the new content.

  • Janine

    First of all: congratulations you two!! Secondly: thanks for being so honest and sharing your real thoughts and feelings! I can only imagine how much that must help countless women out there. I am happy that now you’re feeling better you are able to take on the future in a much more positive light – I am sure you both are going be amazing parents to your two kiddos!
    Xx Janine
    https://walkinmysneaks.blogspot.com

  • Antonieta

    Oh so happy news!!! I literally screamed when I saw your pic (happy excitement scream that is). I have an almost 3yo and got pregnant when she was 1.2yo. And yeah, so related to all your thoughts.
    We wished we had a second but truly weren’t where we wanted to be financially… but still it happened on the only one real attempt. So I think that if it is in your cards it will be no matter what and it will be for the best!
    For me every single symptom kicked harder w my 2nd and gained a lot more weight. Also my bump showed really early! So it not age (I kept saying to myself) is a 2nd baby issue 😉
    Enjoy every second of it because it will turn out more magical than the first. The heart only grows bigger and bigger!
    PS I’m betting #2 will be a handsome boy! 🤭

  • Rachel

    First of all, congratulations! Second of all, I am so grateful you shared your honest feelings around this pregnancy. I’m 15 weeks in (also due in November) and truly just scared. I never wanted to be a mother but I’m learning to be excited about even the smallest things. And like you said, your partners energy has a big impact. Mine is so excited, which has helped me, too. So often society tells women that they can’t feel anything but excitement for being pregnant but for so many women that’s just not the case. It’s a mixed bag of a lot of feelings and so vastly different for everyone. So thank you. In an age of poor parenting and misbehaved kids, I’ve enjoyed watching how you raise Nate, it’s extremely respectable and has given me good ideas for my own in the coming years. So again, thanks for sharing and all the best to you and your family!

  • stilettocpa

    Congratulations! I too struggle with whether to have a second one. My daughter is 6 months old and I am 36 years old. I know I need to decide sooner rather than later but this postpartum weight journey has been very tough on me. I have not been able to lose any weight while nursing. Nate will be a fantastic big brother!

    • Helena

      My weight did not come off at all until I stopped nursing!! Then a lot of it melted off. I promise, that’s more normal than people talk about!

  • Kathleen @ Carrie Bradshaw Lied

    This is so exciting!! Nate is going to be such a great big brother, and I think this is going to be so special to have a larger family. What a beautiful first time experience for everyone – so excited to watch your journey!! This babe is so lucky – xoxo

  • JWilsoN

    Just wanted to thank u for your honesty. Also, sharing all of your mom hacks!!! I’ll b having my first in just a few weeks and have picked up so many things from you even though I’m far from having a toddler. Many blessings to you and your new addition. Congratulations!!!

    PS: Nate is theeeeee cutest

  • Jules

    Congratulations!! And thank you for sharing your fears and worries about going from 1 to 2! I have a lot of fear about having even 1 that I don’t hear a lot of other people talking about so I think it’s great that you’re sharing!

    xo Jules
    http://www.julesinflats.com

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  • Ashley

    All of the exact same emotions (what the hell are we doing?!! convos),, weight gain and food cravings (only carbs would do for the nausea). . The first trimester was ROUGH!! But made it through to the other side and going to enjoy being preg in the summer this time around – feel like t will be easier to dress?? Trying to really enjoy it while I feel good 😎

    • Helena

      congrats to you!! and yes! I’m actually excited about being pregnant through the summer – makes it easier with dresses! Hopefully.

  • Judith

    Oh how wonderful!!!!!! I am old enough to be your Mama and had 3 boys. All of your concerns, so normal. I want you to remember to look into your children’s eyes every.single.day you are with them at least once. When the time flies by (and it will) you will always know that you did this and it will bring you such joy and comfort. Congrats!!!!

    • Helena

      love this! you’re so right – it does go by too fast and I only have a 3 year old! thank you! xo

  • Founay

    Thanks for sharing xoxo

  • Sel

    Dear Helena, I am so happy for you, Keith and Nate. I believe that you and your gorgeous family will adjust beautifully when your precious little one arrives. You must be relieved that the sickness associated with the first trimester is over – just in time for your longed for holiday to pretty Tuscany. Wishing you and your family every blessing.

  • Stacy

    Congratulations! You’ve got this! When I was pregnant with my second the night before my c-section, I sat on my 4 year old sons bed and sobbed. I thought I was changing his whole world and how would I ever have room in my heart to love another child the same. Then that baby gets here and your heart just explodes, it just feels like it was always meant to be that way!

  • Cassie

    Congratulations! So happy for you all. I had a lot of the same fears before and during the pregnancy of my second child and tons of anxiety of having to do it all over again. I felt so much peace once the baby was born and don’t put as much pressure on myself this time around. It’s also easier because you know any difficulties with a new baby, such as waking up every few hours, breastfeeding struggles, low energy, etc. will pass and can tell yourself “I got this.” You also don’t have to deal with the shock of the life style change you did with your first. The hardest part for us is getting ready to pay for 2 nursery schools tuitions and coordinating bedtime is still a struggle especially if I’m trying to get a toddler to sleep and the baby wakes up, but once they’re asleep they’re asleep. Looking forward to reading about your journey.

  • Jalisa

    I couldn’t help but smile ear to ear when reading this because I can relate to nearly everything you’ve felt and have been feeling. I’m currently 7mths pregnant with my second. My first is 22mths–my due date IS my 1 yr old’s 2nd Birthday! Crazy, right?! I actually wanted them two years apart, but when I found out we were expecting, I had all the mixed emotions as you. We don’t have any family that helps, so the thought of juggling two with a husband who works long hours gets pretty scary, lol. It’s been challenging taking care of a toddler while pregnant, but we’ve been getting through and so will you. I feel that most women gain the weight faster with the second or with proceeding pregnancies. We are pretty similar (both Libras 🙂 so the healthy eating and fitness is something that I pay mind to a lot, but it’s been hard this time around and like you, I’ve craved all the carbs pretty much all of my first and much of my second trimester, too. I don’t know, I feel like you’re having a girl. I look forward to when you find out and announce (if you decide to). Anyway, I wanted to let you know that what you’re feeling is exactly what I’m feeling and I’m sure many others have felt, too. Huge congrats again, I’m so excited for your family!

    Xo,

    Jalisa

  • Mila

    Congratulations! I have a three year old and a one year old. This past year was the hardest year of my life. My son(second) was a very difficult and needy baby. He had colic and then started teething almost immediately after so it felt like we never got a break. Most people never understood when I told them about my struggles and it was so hard! I hope your second one will be an easy child because I do believe that would make a world of difference for us if my son ate and slept like a normal baby.

    And all those thoughts are so normal! Ive personally regretted having my son on many sleepless nights. But he is turning one next week and things are finally getting easier.

    Like you said, in the grand scheme of life the hard times will eventually fade and you will have a beautiful family for the rest of your life!

    Congrats again!

  • Sara maribele

    Firstly, congratulations!!!!
    Yes you will be exhausted, but sooo worth it 🙂 It does get easier (for me it was when my second turned 2). And Nate will seem like such an older child once the tiny one comes around. I absolutely love both my boys equally but differently (you will soon understand) because they are different:)

  • Laura E

    Helena, this is SO exciting. All those thoughts and fears are sooooo normal, and to be honest some of the fears will seem to come true for a short time but If there’s one thing having two kids has taught me, it’s that people are way more adaptable and resilient than they think, and you WILL be able to handle all the hard stuff!

    The best part is, your love doesn’t get split in two between two kids…it grows exponentially! What a joyful, exciting thing to witness and experience. So much happiness for you. <3

  • Priscila

    Amazing post, thank you again for always being so honest. Congratulations on baby #2 lots of love to you and your family 😘

  • Suzy

    Congrats! One to two is more work but it’s all worth it to see your two littles interacting and loving each other.

  • Mireia

    Congratulations! So lovely!

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  • Karolina

    My son is 5 days younger than Nate. And I am already on the 2-kids-bandwagon, as the second one came 2 years after. Man … it is emotional rollercoaster.
    My biggest fear was like yours: Am I going to love her as much as I do my first one? That was my biggest problem then… but Helena, the moment I took her in my arms still so warm and pink I knew there is no such thing…
    it won’t be easy for sure, but it will be worth it.
    Nate will have someone who will remind him of both of you when you are gone one day.
    I wish you all the best from the bottom of my heart, and I’m happy to join your journey along.
    Thank you for sharing! Beautiful news!
    Karolina

  • Chanda

    CONGRATULATIONS! You look stunning and you’ve got this mama!

  • Paige

    I’m 18 weeks pregnant with my second boy and am feeling everything you are, too. Especially the “will I ever…” sleep, exercise, work, travel, breathe?? part of it. Everyone keeps telling me you simply make room for another, so I’m trying to gear up for the adventure and take this as the gift it truly is. Thank you for your honesty!

  • Tamara kennedy

    Congratulations, so very happy for you and your family!

  • Aida

    Congratulations!

    • Jan

      I had a wonderful career, two children, and a great life. If I had it to do over, I would have had 3 or 4 children. They are worth it and make life something more to live for even with all the ups and downs. That make the world go around.

  • Sarah

    Congratulations Helena! I have been following your blog since I was in High School and I love seeing everything that you share on Instagram. You are one of my absolute favorite “bloggers”, and I know that you and Keith will be the best parents to both Nate and your new baby. xoxo

  • Robin

    Congratulations to you and your family! I trailed a couple months behind your pregnancy with Nate with my daughter. Your pregnancy-related and then newborn, baby, and toddler content was (is) so helpful and relevant! Here I am trying for my second baby – again, right in your footsteps 🙂

  • Priscilla

    Congratulations! I also felt VERY guilty in sharing how I truly felt about being pregnant with #2 as I was/am surrounded by women who are struggling to get pregnant and I had a very easy time getting pregnant (and got pregnant before we were both ready to start trying). But I feel like we should not just internalize our fears and anxiety because we may offend others when we are actually also propagating the idea that is it not OK to share fears and anxiety about going from 1-2. So thank you for your blog! I’m 31 weeks now and I’m super excited that my little one will be a big sister of a baby brother, but I’m also anxious about the hectic schedule and how it will change my marriage. At least second time around we know what we’re doing when we come back from the hospital! Congratulations again and can’t wait to see how you style your bump!

  • Natasha

    Congrats!!! I’ve been following you for years and you are one of the very first bloggers I started really following and just feel such genuine excitement for you! I’m 20 weeks with my second and let me tell you I feel all the same fears and thoughts about disrupting our current lives, never sleeping again and feeling normal (unfortunately my nauseas is still going strong) I LOVE that you shared your really thoughts. Makes me heart you more xo

  • Winnie

    CONGRATULATIONS DARLING……

  • Kristal

    I’m 13 weeks and am elated to be able to check your blog! I’ve also gained 10 lbs in the first trimester. So refreshing to know I’m not the only one!!!

  • Dama

    Congratulations!! We have a November (2017) little one as well! It’ll be interesting to follow along your pregnancy as I reminisce about my own 🙂 As we discuss our future, I have many of the same concerns about another baby and I completely understand how scary it is to share those thoughts out loud. I applaud your bravery and honesty and wish you all the best during your pregnancy and new chapter in your lives! PS. You look flawless! I look forward to all the amazing pregnancy fashion! If I could have worn sweats all 9 months, I totally would have hahaha!

  • Michelle

    Oh Helena, I’m so happy for you. Huge congratulations. Can’t wait to see Nate as a big brother.

  • Laurence

    Congratulations! This is exactly how I felt when I was pregnant with my second. Turned out, we had a beautiful baby girl last January and we named her Helena. ✌️

  • Marie

    Can relate 100% to all you said!! I’m also about your age and pregnant with my 2nd. Thanks for sharing honestly! You aren’t the only one with these conflicting emotions! Hoping the 2nd time round is a bit more relaxed (?), knowing so much more this time around. 🙂 Glad you’re feeling better now!

  • Gabrielle

    Ahhh congrats mama!!!! So so happy for you guys!! EVERY SINGLE emotion you feel is sooo normal and I am very happy you shared!! I have a 18 month old and literally think the same questions you posted, like HOW will we go from 1 to 2?? haha – not preggo yet…, but definitely in the near future God willing! So happy you’re feeling better! Enjoy ALL THE CARBS 🙂

  • Rebecca @ Strength and Sunshine

    Ah, so exciting! Congratulations!

  • Rachel

    Thank you for sharing your honest thoughts! My husband and I each have 2 siblings and new we wanted a big family as well. I have a 17 month old and we a lot of friends who got pregnant shortly after their first and we don’t know how they do it. I had a rough pregnancy, birth, post partum anxiety and have a very high maintenance son. I know I will want more but we are by no means ready and it literally scares me how much he exhausts me now how I will be able to handle it. Obviously people everywhere do but it can be so daunting to think about when you think you are barely making it through the day. So thank you for this!

  • Wendy R

    Congratulations! I adore all the stories about Nate. And I’m looking forward to seeing your beautiful pregnancy outfits and him on his role of big brother. Congrats again!

    Wen

    https://withlovewen.com/

  • Mary D

    om freak’in g, yay! congrats….our family is growing…I’m older & childless by choice- but so cool to see others blossom, as over time you become part of our families through yr blog & thoughts ..and pics of Nate and his evolution are awesome , and fondly looked upon , wow so cute & getting so big!Look forward too enjoying the journey along with you … sure you’ll do it with style and growth of wisdom thought the way! All the best!

  • Jo-Lynne Shane

    I’m just finally getting around to reading this, and you have so many comments already, but I just want to chime in with my congrats… and also i can totally relate to mixed feelings upon finding out (except we were going from 2 to 3… YIKES!) I had the same mixed emotions, and I felt so guilty. Now that “baby” is 13, but I do recall those feelings very well. Also, my morning sickness got worse with each pregnancy, and carbs was the only cure. Awful. I’m so glad you’re feeling better! The rest of it will work out. Thanks for sharing your honest thoughts and feelings.

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    thanks for sharing this pic its so beautiful…

  • Janaile

    I’m due in Dec with my second and feel like I could have posted this myself. I’m still so sick thay working out and eating healthy like I did before is so hard. I go twice a week to Pilates but I’m exhausted and have no energy to push hard like I used to. My body doesn’t feel like my own right now but I know it’ll pass. I’m filled with anxiety bc I had horrible ppd. Just sharing bc pregnancy isn’t all butterflies and rainbows. Thank you for sharing your experience.

  • Belle

    Congratulations!
    thank you for sharing, I have a 3mths old baby girl and the pressure is already on for the second. I am definitely not ready. It’s so much work, I would want my little one to at least be one or two years old. Can’t wait to hear the sex of the baby! and please don’t stop sharing your journey. xoxo

  • Nikky Priddy

    Congratulations 🍾🎈🎉🎊!! You’re already such a great mom, this transition will be intense but beautiful! You’ll love the new one just as much as Nate. I don’t know how we do it all, but we do.
    I love how incredibly honest you are. A lot of us feel the same mixed muddle of emotions but don’t talk about it enough, in my opinion. So thank you Helena. Can’t wait to see what comes next. 💕🥰

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